Going 'All In' Is Weak

This video might piss a few people off. But it's the reality of it.

The internet glorifies going all in. On your business, your job, your work. And compared to the worst things you could be doing, sure, it's not terrible advice.

But when you've been around people who've done that for decades\u2026

People who have sacrificed their health, their relationships, their kids for money alone\u2026

You start to realise it's flawed logic at best & catastrophically dangerous advice at worst.

Here's what I find particularly interesting:

In these same circles, people say things worth doing are challenging. Yet the advice is to go all in on one thing, work 12 hours a day, sacrifice everything else.

Those two ideas can't coexist.

Because going all in on one thing is actually the easy way out.

If you're ambitious and motivated, sitting in an office for 12 hours a day is not hard. I could do it every day. And that's exactly why I know it's not the right path.

What's actually challenging is attempting integration across all the areas that matter:

Health, relationships, peace of mind, physical health, my energy, being a Dad AND meaningful work. You're juggling competing interests. You have to make real decisions about where you're needed at any given moment.

It's because it's more challenging that it's worthwhile.

A mentor of mine, Travis, gave me an analogy just before I became a dad.

He explained that in life we're always juggling balls across health, relationships, money. Some are rubber. Drop them and they bounce back. Some are glass. Drop them and they shatter.

The glass ones are usually relationships and health.

Yet all the advice out there lifts up the rubber ball, money & business, as the priority.

If you wake up in 10 years with no relationship with your kids because you worked their entire childhood, that time is gone. You might repair things, but you'll know you missed it.

If you neglect your health for 15 years, you'll wake up to irreparable damage.

That's why I think going all in is weak.

Integration is harder. But when you get it right, each day has the best of all of it.

Time to yourself, time with your partner, good time with your kids, and work on projects you care about.

I've done the 80 hour weeks. The 100 hour weeks. All through my 20s. I've seen both ends.

There's nothing like a fully integrated calendar.

This belief underpins everything I talk about here. The Quiet Empire model is built on integration:

Your business, your projects, your investments, your brand, your life. All rowing together.

Not going all in on one thing while everything else burns.

More notes coming as I keep building.

Jacob